On meaningful life and positivity

Recently, I have thought a lot about what positivity actually means. Under what kind of spirit do we live everyday, walking this path?

Alfred Adler wrote in his book that all human problems are eventually interpersonal relationship problems. I would think so, except maybe a physical illness.

One of the teachings of buddhism is that one should not worry about the things that they cannot control. Eventually, only “valid” concern being immediate death.

A wise man even drew a flow graph like this:

1. Are you currently ill?
   • If yes, will it heal?
     • If yes, no need to worry.
     • If no, will it cause death? If no, no need to worry.
   • If no
     • No need to worry.

This was the only worry that he thought would be of a ‘valid’ concern.

I liked to be alone a lot, working mostly alone on my computer at home. My early 30’s went by like that. But there was a turning point due to personal matters that kind of forced me to go outside and try working in jobs embedded more physically in the society. I have not once regretted that decision.

One of the biggest things I have learned during the past years is that just interacting with other people in real or even via webcam is one of the most important things for human being. It is as important as breathing or eating.

Then, eventually, providing a service for others is one of the most worthwhile activities. That act alone, regardless of stuff like salary, etc. will lead into positive mental circumstance. Of course, like in tennis we can’t just keep hitting balls without receiving any back, that wouldn’t make a very exciting game in a long term. But we got to start by a serve.

Just getting up from the bed in the morning and actually going out, will more likely result in a positive outcome, than negative one.

I think we are meant to be positive beings. And this comes naturally to us, eventually. We don’t need to smile if we don’t want to, or even be especially nice to others.

But positivity is living, and doing things that benefit society. Giving it a best shot we can. Some days that may not be much, and that also is fine.

I think of all the buddhist poems and books I have read, one thing standing out is gratitude.

Today I have four limbs and I can move around and do things, I am so thankful. I can breathe air, and control my breathing, how great this is. Yes, I am thankful.

I have had chance to work with really remarkable and inspiriting people. I am so thankful.

I would like to exist today, making this world a little a bit more bearable and nice for everyone concerned.